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Surprised by Stress:
Sometimes it seems
as if life is a series of losses—the loss of a spouse, the loss
of a job, the loss of a brother. You may realize that you need to
take time to grieve all of these losses. But what you may not realize
is that such losses can also lead to stress—a great deal of
it. In order to remain emotionally healthy, you must learn to deal
effectively with stress induced by traumatic life events.
Interestingly enough, stress can actually be quantified. The Holmes-Rahe
Social Readjustment Scale assigns point values to the various stressors
we can experience in life. For example, the most stressful event we
can encounter is the death of a spouse, which ranks a 100 on the scale.
That’s followed by divorce (73), marital separation (65), jail
term (63), death of a close family member (63), and personal injury
or illness (53). Even happy events, such as marriage, can rank high
on the stress scale.
Most of us do not go through life measuring our stress level. However,
referring to the scale can be quite instructive. For instance, after
consulting the scale, you might decide to delay a major decision such
as the purchase of a new home until you’ve successfully battled
the stress from your divorce. Or you may decide to wait before taking
a new job until you’ve dealt with the stress from your wedding.
This self-awareness can enable you to reduce your stress level and
to maintain your equilibrium amidst great life struggles.
Therefore, one of the healthiest things you can do is to draw up a
list of stress-causing life events and post it in a place where your
entire family can see it. That way, you’ll have a constant reminder
of just what you’re up against. This can also serve to encourage
your family at a time of great heartache. Family members will be able
to see that the event is a normal part of life—one that many
other families face. As a result, they’ll be able to put the
event in perspective.
Another important thing to do is to verbalize your feelings about
a stressful event. Talk to your mate, your parents, a friend, or your
pastor. If you feel as if there’s simply no one to confide in,
ask your family physician for a referral for a good therapist. Talking
about your feelings is an important part of the healing process, and
will enable you to deal with the stress much more efficiently. Another
good option is to commit your feelings to writing. Keep a journal
and use it to express your innermost thoughts. You might be surprised
by how therapeutic this can be. Use the journal for some problem-solving.
Think of ways that you can effectively deal with the stressor in your
life. It may be as simple as taking a hot bath to calm your nerves,
or as challenging as reorganizing your personal files. Such problem-solving
techniques can help you to realize that you can overcome the challenge
in your life—that your life will not end, just because you’ve
encountered a major setback.
Now that you’re aware of the stress scale, you might also consider
taking a pro-active approach. For instance, if your marriage counseling
doesn’t seem to be working, try to prepare yourself mentally
for the day your marriage will end. Also, if your mother is in ill
health, think of what you want to do for her before she passes from
this life. In essence, what you are doing is engaging in disaster
preparedness. While it can be troubling to think of such tragedies,
it can also help you to better cope with the curve balls that life
sends your way.
Another important strategy is to simply “take it slow.”
Don’t hurry when making major life decisions, particularly when
you are faced with a crisis. Recognize that most things in life do
not require instantaneous decisions. You have the luxury of time,
so use it to your full advantage. In the end, you’ll be happy
that you’ve taken the time to think things through, rather than
making rash decisions. If you’re in a “calm mode,”
you’ll also be better able to handle the stress of difficult
situations. 
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